Your Choice for Inner Gratitude

“Your Internal Words Shape WHO You Are.”

– Tess Cox

Welcome to our TC&A November Newsletter.

As we embrace a new month and enter into the celebration season of Thanksgiving and the Holidays, I (Tess) am going to begin by taking us on an inner journey of gratitude. 

It’s probable that my age has something to do with my thought process and desire to write about an inner journey of gratitude. I’ve learned over my lifetime, that the way I choose to speak to myself inwardly, shapes and forms my outcomes. I have found that my internal dialogue about myself and who I am … MATTERS. 


Before I take action on what I am going to do or take action on – I go through a couple of contemplative questions:

  • “Is the way I am thinking staying true to who I am?” 

  • “How will my actions or behaviors stay true to the outcomes I desire?”


Within my own journey I have sought to make it a practice to be aware of the way I speak to myself. I have found, I can be my own encourager and supporter or my own worst critic. When I consistently choose to be my own encourager and supporter, I empower my inner being, which influences my further thought process for positive outcomes.

When I am empowering myself, I relinquish the control of looking for others to empower me or to make me “feel” good about who I am or what I do.

I am more confident that I have the power to choose my mindset and to choose how I use my inner conversation to encourage, support, motivate, reframe, guide and bring forth my inner wisdom towards taking action. 

This is why…I choose my inner words to myself in respect of who I am. I understand that I am a constant learner, even when I have competencies and skills that create who I am every day. I am mindful that the more consistent my inner words are to myself, I feel peaceful and calm. I value my relationship to myself before I value the relationships I build with others – this mindset supports creating and building healthy relationships. 

I am deeply aware of my confidence within vs. an external confidence

(this is where imposter syndrome thrives).

In this season of GRATITUDE – Begin by being GRATEFUL for YOU! Speak generous words to yourself. Give yourself affirmations. Be kind to yourself. And yes, love yourself! When you are aware of your internal gratitude, your thoughts and mindset will influence your behaviors and actions in the most positive of ways…

We look forward to hearing how you are inwardly communicating to yourself? Please email: chelsea@tesscoxandassociates.com or tess@tesscoxandassoicates.com with your thoughts.